Do You Know Someone Who Gambles Too Much? Here's What You Can Do

Gambling can start as a harmless form of entertainment—a weekend bet, a night at the casino, or online sports betting. But for some, it becomes an uncontrollable urge that affects their finances, relationships, mental health, and future. If someone you care about seems to gamble excessively, you might feel helpless, frustrated, or unsure how to intervene.

This blog post is designed to help you recognize the signs of problem gambling, understand the emotional challenges faced by gamblers, and offer effective, compassionate support without enabling the addiction.

Recognizing Problem Gambling

Identifying whether someone has a gambling problem can be difficult, especially if they try to hide their behavior. Some signs to watch out for include:

• Spending more money or time on gambling than intended
• Lying about or hiding gambling activities
• Borrowing money or selling possessions to gamble
• Neglecting responsibilities (work, family, finances)
• Becoming irritable, anxious, or defensive when confronted about gambling
• Chasing losses, hoping to "win it back"

Understand Why They Gamble

People gamble for many reasons: thrill, stress relief, escape from problems, or even to cope with depression and anxiety. For problem gamblers, it becomes a compulsive behavior—not just about money but emotional reward or temporary relief from pain.

Approaching the issue with empathy helps. Understand that it's not simply about lack of willpower; gambling addiction is a behavioral health condition that often requires professional support.

What You Can Do to Help

1. Educate Yourself

Before offering help, take time to learn about gambling addiction. Understanding its triggers, symptoms, and impact will help you provide informed and compassionate support.

2. Start a Conversation

Pick a calm, private time to express your concerns. Use non-judgmental language like:

"I've noticed you seem stressed lately and I wonder if gambling might be part of it. I'm here if you want to talk."

Avoid blaming or lecturing. Focus on how their behavior affects them and the people around them, especially if you're being impacted.

3. Encourage Treatment

Let them know that help is available. Encourage them to: • Take a free gambling self-assessment • Call the National Gambling Helpline • Book an appointment with a counselor or therapist

Remind them that recovery is possible and that professional treatment is confidential and non-judgmental.

4. Set Boundaries

It's important to protect yourself emotionally and financially. Be clear about what you can and can't support:

• Don't lend money to cover gambling debts
• Avoid paying bills they've neglected due to gambling
• Don't lie for them or excuse their behavior

Setting boundaries isn't punishment—it's a healthy way to avoid enabling.

5. Offer Practical Support

Support them in small, practical ways: • Accompany them to their first counseling session • Help them manage their time and routines • Encourage alternative activities like exercise or volunteering

What Not to Do

• Don't try to control or monitor their gambling yourself
• Don't criticize or shame them
• Don't expect quick results; recovery takes time

Take Care of Yourself Too

Supporting someone with an addiction can be emotionally exhausting. Seek support for yourself by speaking to a counselor, joining a support group, or calling our helpline.

When They're Ready, We're Here

At Responsible Gambling Kenya, we offer expert guidance, confidential assessments, and counseling for those affected by problem gambling and their loved ones. Whether you're reaching out for someone else or for yourself, we're here to listen.